Soft Science Yields Hard Results
Dr. Ivan Misner | Oct 19, 2023

I want to delve into a concept that has been central to my philosophy throughout my career: the idea that "caring is a soft science that yields hard results." In the world of business, networking, and personal development, the term "soft science" often refers to fields such as psychology, emotional intelligence, or communications. While these fields may not involve mathematical equations or lab experiments, they play a vital role in understanding human behavior and interactions. When it comes to achieving lasting success in any area of life, including business, caring, and cultivating genuine relationships are essential elements that often produce tangible, "hard" results.

The Power of Relationships

Relationships are the foundation of success in both personal and professional life. As someone who has spent decades researching, teaching, and practicing effective networking, I've witnessed firsthand the transformational power of meaningful connections. Building strong relationships is not about superficial interactions or transactional exchanges but about genuinely caring for others and seeking mutual benefit. This approach represents the soft science of human connection, and it undoubtedly yields hard results in terms of professional achievements, personal fulfillment, and overall well-being.

Networking: A Soft Skill with Hard Outcomes

Networking is often perceived as a soft skill; a domain where personal qualities and interpersonal dynamics outweigh technical expertise. However, the tangible outcomes of effective networking are undeniable. When individuals take the time to build authentic relationships, they tap into a vast reservoir of opportunities, referrals, and resources. These connections can lead to concrete results such as increased sales, job opportunities, and business growth.

Consider a scenario where two entrepreneurs, Alice and Bob, start their respective businesses in the same industry simultaneously. Alice prioritizes building a strong network and invests in nurturing relationships with mentors, peers, and potential clients. Bob, on the other hand, focuses solely on perfecting his product engaging in transactional activities and ignores the soft science of networking and relationship building. Over time, Alice's network begins to refer clients and collaborators, while Bob struggles to gain traction. The tangible, hard results of Alice's caring and relationship-building efforts become evident as her business flourishes, while Bob faces frustration and roadblocks.

Trust: The Currency of Success

Trust is a cornerstone of any successful relationship, whether in business or personal life. Trust is the ultimate "soft" concept, rooted in emotions, perceptions, and intangible factors. Yet, it leads to concrete, "hard" results. When people trust you, they are more likely to do business with you, refer others to you, and collaborate on projects. Trust accelerates decision-making processes, reduces transaction costs, and fosters loyalty.

Think about a renowned brand like Apple. Their commitment to quality, customer satisfaction, and innovation has cultivated an immense level of trust among consumers. While trust itself cannot be measured on a balance sheet, Apple's hard results, including record-breaking sales and market capitalization, are a testament to the power of this soft science.

Caring as a Competitive Advantage

In today's hypercompetitive business landscape, differentiating oneself from the competition is crucial. Caring can be the key differentiator that sets individuals and organizations apart. When you genuinely care about your customers, clients, employees, and partners, you create an emotional connection that goes beyond the transactional. This emotional connection fosters customer loyalty, employee retention, and long-lasting partnerships.

Consider the example of Zappos, the online shoe and clothing retailer. Zappos has built its reputation on exceptional customer service, and caring is at the heart of their corporate culture. Employees are encouraged to go above and beyond to delight customers, even if it means spending hours on the phone to ensure a customer finds the perfect pair of shoes. This commitment to caring has translated into hard results for Zappos, including high customer retention rates and word-of-mouth referrals, contributing to their success in the competitive e-commerce industry.

Personal Fulfillment and Well-Being

While much of this discussion has focused on the professional realm, it's important to acknowledge that caring also has profound effects on personal fulfillment and well-being. The soft science of caring extends to our relationships with friends, family, and community. When we genuinely care about the well-being of others, we experience a sense of purpose, fulfillment, and happiness that enriches our lives.

In a study conducted by Harvard University, researchers found that strong, supportive relationships were the most significant predictor of happiness and life satisfaction. These soft, emotional connections had a direct impact on individuals' overall well-being, demonstrating the undeniable link between caring and personal fulfillment.

In the world of business, networking, and personal development, caring may be considered a soft science, but its results are anything but soft. The power of relationships, trust, and caring as a competitive advantage are undeniable. When we prioritize building genuine connections and nurturing relationships, we tap into a wellspring of opportunities, referrals, and resources that lead to concrete, "hard" results.

As we navigate our professional journeys and seek to achieve lasting success, let us remember that caring is not a weakness; it is a strength. It is a fundamental element of the soft science of human connection, and it is the catalyst for achieving hard results in business and in life. So, let us embrace the power of caring, cultivate meaningful relationships, and watch as it transforms our personal and professional landscapes, propelling us toward unprecedented success and fulfillment.

By Dr. Ivan Misner

Called the “father of modern networking” by CNN, Dr. Misner is a New York Times bestselling author.  He is also the Founder of BNI (, the world’s largest business networking organization. His latest book, The 3rd Paradigm, A Radical Shift to Greater Success, is about the amazing results that come fromco-creation in business.