I Don’t Know What Your Problem is But I’m Sure There’s a Medical Name For it!
Dr. Ivan Misner | May 18, 2023

Have you ever encountered those perplexing individuals who seem to have a perpetual cloud of dissatisfaction hanging over their heads? You know, the ones who can turn a sunny day into a thunderstorm with a single grumble? Well, I don't know what scientific term describes their unique condition, but I'm willing to bet it's something like "chronic Pickyitus" or "incessant Whineophilia." Yes, dear reader, we're diving deeper into the realm of difficult people, where complaints flow like a never-ending waterfall and smiles are as rare as unicorns with winning lottery tickets.

Dealing with such enigmatic beings can be quite the adventure, a journey fraught with challenges and unexpected twists. It's like embarking on an Indiana Jones-style quest through a dense jungle, except instead of wild animals, you're dodging complaints and unsatisfied sighs. No matter how agile you try to be, you always end up stepping on a landmine of their discontent. It's like tiptoeing through a field of tulips, only to realize they're actually landmines disguised as flowers. But fear not, my friend, for it's not your fault. Some people are simply wired to be difficult, as if their internal circuitry is powered by a sour lemon battery, while the rest of us are powered by sunshine and rainbows.

So, what's a brave soul like yourself to do in the face of such daunting challenges? Well, one approach is to employ the power of humor, a trusty weapon in the arsenal of human connection. When faced with a difficult person, try injecting some laughter into the mix. It won't magically solve their problems, but it might just give you both a much-needed chuckle and lighten the atmosphere faster than a helium balloon on steroids. Picture this: They're complaining about something trivial, and you respond with a deadpan look and say, "Wow, that sounds like a real first-world problem. I suggest we all join hands and form a support group for the terribly afflicted, with matching t-shirts and everything!" Okay, maybe not the most practical solution, but it might just inject some much-needed perspective into their momentary drama. Laughter is the best medicine, after all, even if it doesn't come with a prescription label.

Another tactic is to simply lend them your ears, metaphorically speaking, of course. Sometimes, all people want is to be heard, like a choir of grievances in search of an understanding conductor. They want someone who will listen to their problems and offer a sympathetic ear, even if you can't wave a magic wand and make it all better. So, be that listening ear, the compassionate confidant, and maybe throw in a few "uh-huhs" and "tell me more" to keep them on their toes. It's like being a professional listener, a highly esteemed member of the Ear-lympics, if you will. Just remember, the goal isn't to solve their problems but to let them release their frustrations like balloons at a hot air balloon festival (minus the fire hazard, of course).

In the end, tackling difficult people is no easy feat. It's like trying to wrestle a stubborn octopus while wearing a blindfold and ice skates – a near-impossible task, but hey, it builds character, right? If you can navigate the minefield of difficult personalities with humor and compassion, you might just emerge victorious, like a knight in shining armor armed with witty comebacks and emotional intelligence. Who knows, along the way, you might even stumble upon a whole new dictionary of absurd words to describe these enigmatic creatures. "Difficulticus maximus," anyone?

So, my fellow adventurer in the realm of human interactions, brace yourself, armor yourself with laughter and empathy, and let the battle of wit and understanding commence. May the odds be ever in your favor, and may the grumpy clouds above your difficult acquaintance dissipate like a bad punchline. Remember, you're not alone in this struggle. We're all united in the quest for peaceful coexistence with the difficult folks of the world. Together, we shall triumph, armed with humor and understanding, and maybe, just maybe, we'll find a way to rename their condition with a catchy, tongue-twisting term. Until then, my friend, keep your chin up, your wit sharp, and your compassion overflowing. The world needs more warriors like you.

- By Dr. Ivan Misner

Called the “father of modern networking” by CNN, Dr. Misner is a New York Times bestselling author.  He is also the Founder of BNI (www.bni.com), the world’s largest business networking organization. His latest book,Who’s in Your Room 2nd Edition, is a book about the secret to creating your best life.